Motherhood Uncovered

Final Day of 2025

The last day of the year has mixed feelings. For me personally, I reflect on what we overcame, how we grew as a family or individually, and even the goals we did not reach. I am always so proud of my boys and the people they are growing into. This specifically is bittersweet. Time is a thief and even through all the times I focused on being present, I can still think about a hundred times I was not. That brings me to the topic of resolutions. I have never been a New Year’s Resolution gal. I am the type that must restart about 10-20 times before a habit sticks. Rather than push hard only in January, I focus on one goal at a time throughout the years and what I can currently handle. As a mom we deal with underlying stress that is not made aware as often as it should. After having one baby your brain is not the same as it used to be. We live in crisis mode for months trying to learn our babies’ cues and the new routine of parenthood, all while trying to implement the life we had before. I did not even mention the possibility of complications medically, our support systems and postpartum depression. I have been a mother for 8 years now, with two boys in the mix. During this time, I have dealt with my biggest struggles in life and have learned a lot. In my imperfection, I have found several ways that have helped me on the day-to-day race to keep positive and my mind and body in order. Here are a few things I try to find time for every day. They are simple tasks but make a world of difference.

• Begin your day spending time with God.
• Move around – take a walk, find an exercise routine, play outside with the kids.
• Touch grass and find sunlight.
• Shift your mindset to this is the life and purpose God has given me.
• Go to bed earlier and stop doomscrolling.
• Make Lists, not just one, one for everything.

You do not need to put too much pressure on yourself. We are only as good as the amount we have filled our cup with. A few years ago, when I quit my job, I had more opportunity to spend time in the Bible. This created a fire in me to grow further in my relationship with God. I had been living in the motions following the path of the world and not spending time with God to learn what my true calling was. To be honest I spent most of my life wondering what the heck my purpose is. Proverbs 16:3 – “Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.”

Aside from forming a relationship with God, it would only make sense that we spend time everyday connecting to the earth he created for us. Spending time touching grass and catching sunlight can pair with exercise and the kids playing outside. Take a slot of time in your day to make this a priority and I promise everyone in your house will start seeing their natural energy return.

Shifting your mindset if tough! I am still working on this, and I think most would admit this is the toughest transition. Try changing your mindset to see and question everything with, “Will this positively benefit my family and myself and is it pleasing in God’s eyes? For example, my son LOVES making messes. With toys, with dirt, with anything he can get his hands on. I have had to shift my mindset from the mess to the need. What can I do here that is positive for him and pleasing in God’s eyes? If I just yelled and told him he cannot do anything else until its cleaned up, it would likely remain there and I would have a grumpy kid or I can teach him how to properly clean the mess and help him so it is not overwhelming. He is 5 so I do not expect independence like my 8-year-old, he still needs me in ways the other does not. Now that my oldest has developed independence, I can ask him to clean his mess and he can do it all by himself. This is a perfect example of how the committed work you have put into your child has blossomed them into the person you were always hoping they would be.

Doomscrolling has captured too many of us. Instead of having hobbies and spending time using our creativity, we’re wasting our youth watching other people live. UGH. I’m guilty of it. Let’s just quit it and go to bed already. :)

To wrap up my favorite organizational tool is…..LISTS! I make a list for bills, household needs, groceries, errands, honey-dos for my hubby. The list goes on, no pun intended. This has whole heartedly helped me be a productive human being. We live in a world where distractions are endless and if we don’t stay prioritized it falls apart too fast. I am going to add a chart I created to stay on top of my home. If your home is cozy and clean your mind will follow along.

Everyone is different, but this has helped me and I pray that anyone who can benefit from this will be able to stay committed and gain a sense of peace along with it.